The psychology of narcissism – W. Keith Campbell

The psychology of narcissism – W. Keith Campbell

Way before the first selfie, the ancient Greeks and Romans had a myth about someone a little too obsessed
with his own image. In one telling, Narcissus was a handsome guy wandering
the world in search of someone to love. After rejecting a nymph named Echo, he caught a glimpse
of his own reflection in a river, and fell in love with it. Unable to tear himself away, Narcissus drowned. A flower marked the spot of where he died,
and we call that flower the Narcissus. The myth captures
the basic idea of narcissism, elevated and sometimes
detrimental self-involvement. But it’s not just a personality type
that shows up in advice columns. It’s actually a set of traits classified
and studied by psychologists. The psychological definition of narcissism
is an inflated, grandiose self-image. To varying degrees, narcissists think
they’re better looking, smarter, and more important than other people, and that they deserve special treatment. Psychologists recognize two forms
of narcissism as a personality trait: grandiose and vulnerable narcissism. There’s also narcissistic
personality disorder, a more extreme form,
which we’ll return to shortly. Grandiose narcissism
is the most familiar kind, characterized by extroversion, dominance, and attention seeking. Grandiose narcissists pursue
attention and power, sometimes as politicians, celebrities, or cultural leaders. Of course, not everyone who pursues
these positions of power is narcissistic. Many do it for very positive reasons, like reaching their full potential, or helping make people’s lives better. But narcissistic individuals seek power for the status
and attention that goes with it. Meanwhile, vulnerable narcissists
can be quiet and reserved. They have a strong sense of entitlement, but are easily threatened or slighted. In either case, the dark side of
narcissism shows up over the long term. Narcissists tend to act selfishly, so narcissistic leaders may make risky
or unethical decisions, and narcissistic partners may be dishonest
or unfaithful. When their rosy view of themselves
is challenged, they can become resentful and aggressive. It’s like a disease where the sufferers
feel pretty good, but the people around them suffer. Taken to the extreme, this behavior is classified
as a psychological disorder called narcissistic personality disorder. It affects one to two percent
of the population, more commonly men. It is also a diagnosis
reserved for adults. Young people, especially children,
can be very self-centered, but this might just be a normal
part of development. The fifth edition of the American
Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual describes several traits associated
with narcissistic personality disorder. They include a grandiose view of oneself, problems with empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a need for admiration or attention. What makes these trait a true
personality disorder is that they take over people’s lives
and cause significant problems. Imagine that instead of caring
for your spouse or children, you used them as a source
of attention or admiration. Or imagine that instead of seeking constructive feedback
about your performance, you instead told everyone
who tried to help you that they were wrong. So what causes narcissism? Twin studies show
a strong genetic component, although we don’t know
which genes are involved. But environment matters, too. Parents who put their child
on a pedestal can foster grandiose narcissism. And cold, controlling parents
can contribute to vulnerable narcissism. Narcissism also seems to be higher in cultures that value individuality
and self-promotion. In the United States, for example, narcissism as a personality trait
has been rising since the 1970s, when the communal focus of the 60s gave way to the self-esteem movement and a rise in materialism. More recently, social media has multiplied
the possibilities for self-promotion, though it’s worth noting that there’s no clear evidence
that social media causes narcissism. Rather, it provides narcissists a means
to seek social status and attention. So can narcissists improve
on those negative traits? Yes! Anything that promotes honest reflection
on their own behavior and caring for others, like psychotherapy or practicing
compassion towards others, can be helpful. The difficulty is it can be challenging for people with
narcissistic personality disorder to keep working at self-betterment. For a narcissist, self-reflection is hard
from an unflattering angle.

Comments (100)

  1. I think i light be narcissist, but I still treat people well.

  2. Ok mabel from gravity falls??



  5. The president of the United States is mocking an underaged environmental activist on twitter. Imagine reading that headline 5 years ago.

    Oust Trump. Kill Trump. Take back democracy.

  6. When scientists make being Karen is a mental disorder

  7. Legit everyone on Dr. Phil

  8. This is G dragon 😂

  9. The background of this video makes me think it is a dirt on my screen… I tried to wipe it

  10. Sounds like Caillou

  11. Let’s just say you know someone with anger anxieties bad temper narcissistic whatever you want to call it. what does it make you when you have the need to Laugh at that person and call them hateful names After all these are people with problems right.? problems that supposedly you do not have. I mean don’t we all have those problems.
    Jesus said in mathew7 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
    mans ways and opinions are harsh and have no fair justice.
    Man is the head on women and Jesus is the head of man what we are seeing these days is men continue to corrupt men and women are fallowing in mans ways study the Bible so you can free your self from these hateful subjects

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  13. How can anyone have such perfect voice.


  15. It's funny how my brother became a narcissist after a few months living with his controlling dad at a young age

  16. I love me so much that I wish I had an identical twin brother I could have an incestuous relationship with

  17. Sooooo president trump?

  18. 🖕 please stop manipulating

  19. They didn't talk much about vulnerable narcisissm? 😕

  20. I am an honest narcissist. 😆

  21. #HatersGonnaHate

    #ThirstyCommenters getting them likes.

  22. I'd argue my personality is slightly narcissist. But I'm typically honest so it's not really a problem

  23. Im very important than people but im not a narcissist

  24. Guys I finally can be the 1% in two different ways

  25. Ah, a video that talks about me

  26. I am the best. PERIOD!

  27. Its good to have some Ego because then you have confidence and you respect yourself.

  28. I’m too harsh on myself to be a narcissist

  29. Just remember that loving yourself isn't narcissistic

  30. I think I may accedentaly be A vunerable narcissist. I always get upset when I'm in second. Say, if my sister got an 100 on an exam, and I got a 98, I get upset. Like, I always feel lile I have to be the best, and if I'm not the best, I'm the worst. I need help with helping it go away 🙁


  32. narcissism is when you think you deserve to be the best when you have not earned it and think that you are better than others who are actually better than you at something

  33. Check everyone on Instagram

  34. All the people are in love with themselves 99%

  35. Demario Jives ALL the way!!!! I kept the SAME ENERGY!

  36. First person that came to mind was Kanye West. Then I thought…"damn , that's me to." Sad face.

  37. I watch these and think I am a narcisst, I am a psychopath, I have the Asberger Syndrom… Oh and then I forget so many things so I am most likely borderline dement. Is it just me or are all those indicators describe ALL human beings at some point? Its confusing – I bet there is a diagnosis for that too…

  38. They're all on Instagram now. The worst person to meet in your life is a narcissist that lost everything.

  39. Basically it's like love me but fear me.

  40. Narcissists are not happy unless everyone around them is unhappy.

  41. Sooo basically the president

  42. stay humble.dont try to overshadow others.sorry im using malaysian english.

  43. When guys treat their relationship n attraction normal n even the mention of another guy.. Makes girl a.. U know what!

  44. Exactly narcissism

  45. I guess i am narcissistic because these all traits are in me🤔

  46. I am a narcisist. What do l do…?

  47. 1:01 Damnn you're right

    Yes I'm a narcissist help me 😂😂

  48. My brother and mother 🙁

  49. I'm smarter than everyone I know. I think I'd be able to tell if I was a narcissist

  50. Free

  51. I don’t see any reason why some people would want to date or befriend a narcissist.

  52. This is why the r/EntitledParents and other such subreddits exist.

  53. Conor McGregor…….

  54. "I'm a stable genius" "I know more then the generals" "Kim loves me, we are in love" "I'm the best (fill in the blanks) "I have so sins to forgive" "I can grab them by their P—'s" Hmmm-mm who might this be?

  55. OMG!!!!! In 0:10 just look at the way this noes wobbles

    ItS hIlArIoUs fItE mE

  56. please note all the noses in the animation. Those noses are god level (and literally what I draw). Those are literally as close to real noses as you can get…

    a round of applause for the noses, please

  57. I feel like even having the slightest bit of self confidence is considered narcissistic.

  58. narsistic people don't admit they are narsistic

  59. As to narcissists working to better their behavior – yeah they become better at being narcissistic. Narcissists do not work on (or at) anything. Everything that appears to be wrong is someone else's fault. If there is some action to be done, they want you to do it and then they'll derive tremendous satisfaction degrading you once it's done. Just cheerfully walk away.

  60. as of having npd life is pretty great when you only worry about yourself

  61. more commonly men? pls narcissim is part of female nature

  62. Nowadays people don't say that someone is narcissist, now they call this self-marketing.

  63. I just love how they used Donald Trump for grandiose narcissism😆

  64. Do a video about BPD

  65. Narcisstic girls exist too! Found out the hard way, and too late

  66. kim jong un fits very well into this.

  67. I guessing I’m a vulnerable narcissist and I don’t know how I feel about it

  68. Living proof.. MODI

  69. Trying to cut people down in your everyday life if they done wrong you no wrong means…YOU SHOULD GET HELP.

  70. Wow I think I meant one once. She always asked me for money.

  71. Grandiose narcissism…

    What a twist it describes Donald Trump…

  72. Narcissism is Meghan Markle

  73. I have the exact opposite of narcissism (anxiety) also me have ADHD

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  75. Am I the only one who hates myself while also thinking I’m better than everyone else?

  76. My doctor, by proxy, diagnosed my father with Malignant Narcissism. I didn’t hear about that here.

  77. 3:21 be hitting different

  78. My moms always told me her mom as narcissism. She does hurtful things and as a result my mom cut her and other people like my moms sister from that side of the family out of our lives. It’s hard not living that side of the family sometimes but 🤷🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻

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  80. Perfectly describes Donald Trump.

  81. Couldn’t stop thinking about my girlfriend the entire time 🙄

  82. There are two types of narcissists in this world…One who knows they are…
    and one who thinks they’re not.

  83. so… what's the opposite?

  84. Ever meet a narcissist that lives their live to proof that they are not one?

  85. Yet in that narcist country only 10% of the country is pour.
    In Venezuela 50% is poor.

  86. Narcissists aren't usually men. The many covert narcissists who fly under the radar are in fact frequently women.

  87. I am AMAZING but!!!! I am not a narcissist

  88. Sounds like me!😳😳😳🤣🤣🤣!

  89. It’s something that is a danger. To be honest with your flaws you must remain humble and humbled. To have a good self control is what makes you get special treatment.

  90. Il narcisista ti blocca sui social non condivide le idee degli altri e' servo del potere

  91. There are 4 types not 2, grandiose, secreto, vulnerable, and i think the other is comunal.

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